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	sigh... by staycalmlivefree	1	22	Feb 19 2013 - 4:26am by staycalmlivefree

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staycalmlivefree sigh... Jan 15, 2013 7:44 PM Well, here we go. I'm 18. I work as a secretary at an employee benifit company. And my fiance is in the army, we've been engaged since december and we've been together little over a year, we've been close friends for the past 3 years. He just deployed overseas a few weeks ago. We spent his last two weeks home together everyday. It was just like knowing he was leaving me, made my love for him grow and his for me because he asked me to marry him 2 days after christmas, 2 days before he left. Now I'm waiting 9-12 months to be with the man I love. I come from a military family. My father and only brother served. My brother still does. I know all about loved ones leaving and not knowing if you're going to see thier faces again. But it feel so much more intense now. Like, at night i can literatly feel the emptiness beside me. I thought I was doing okay but as the days keep going on the nights are getting lonlier and lonlier, I just need some support with all this so feel free to ask me what you want, just start a conversation anythingg

LizzySpaid Is it going to be okay? Dec 1, 2012 2:18 PM Hello, Lizzy here. My boyfriend of 7 years (basically fionce) is in AIT and talking to him only happens on the weekends and I hate that I can't talk to him as much as we used to. I'm fearing the time when he finishes and it's deployment time to overseas to serve. Does this get any easier? Being in love with a military man who you don't get to see on a daily basis? Support is something I think I need but no one knows what I'm going through so they can't help and they don't know how.

Andrea2332644 Mil to Mil and Long Distance Marriage Feb 19, 2012 3:53 AM Hello Everyone!! I'm currently in the Air Force (enlisted) and I met my husband at our first duty station. Well long story short, we dated for about 2 years before he found out he was selected for Officer Training School to become a pilot. We had always talked about getting married so now the pressure was on: get married in the next 3 months before he becomes an Officer, get charged with fraternization, or don't see each other anymore. We talked about it and decided to get married!! We got married one month before I left on deployment and shortly afterward, he left for Officer Training School. We'd been used to the distance stuff because we were both flyers and we'd go a few months at a time without seeing each. Altogether, it will be about a year and a half distance. Well, here we are, about 3 months into our distance marriage. I'll see him in about 3 months when I'm back from deployment for his OTS graduation but then back to distance for another 4 months or so. Then we'll see each other again for about a week and back to distance. I'm having a really hard time with this already and am trying to find ways to cope. I think about him all the time and it's to the point where I have a hard time focusing on other things. I don't think it helps that I'm deployed and pretty much isolated from everyone else. (My job is 90% males and I'm deployed with a different squadron where I don't know anyone) I KNOW things will be at least a little better when I'm back at my duty station and my squadron surrounded by friends but until then... does anyone have any coping methods? I try to keep thinking about how awesome our future is going to be together, but it's so hard to imagine not seeing him very much until Summer 2013. Thanks for any advice!!

ashleedna Cob Adder Oct 27, 2011 6:15 AM My boyfriend is based at Cob Adder and has been working so much that I haven't gotten to talk to him in nearly 6 days he is losing mail and internet soon anyday now in fact I am now worried that I won't get to talk to him until the his deployment is over, which isnt until next summer. I miss him so much and wish there was a way to tell him I need to talk to him. Though it seems like an impossible thing all I can do is email and leave offline Yahoo messages, Wish there was a way to call of contact someone there that could tell him I need to talk him atleast one more time before we cant talk for months, Never thought that the impossible could make my heart hurt so much. I wish I had an idea where he is going after Cob Adder. I just want to know he is doing okay and there seems to be no way to find out. Days like this are so hard when you cant talk to the one that you love,

asoldierssweetheart08 A poem I wrote while my love was deployed Sep 6, 2011 5:02 PM Have you ever just stopped and stared at the young lady in line at the store? She not like any other young lady. She looks tired, like she hasn't slept in days. You may notice she wears a pair of dog tags around her neck. You wonder what its like to be her, to be a real life military wife. Some how the thought of being a military wife scares you and you wonder how she does it on a day-to-day basis. The young lady in line may look tired but somehow she still looks beautiful all at the same time. She holds her head up high and puts on a smile even though her heart is half a world away. She doesn't know where he is, or when he's coming home, much less if he will ever come home. She has a glow about her, one that you don't see often from where you are from. It's her glowing with the utmost patriotism you have ever seen. That young lady that you stare at might wear a smile on the outside but on the inside she's dying. She wakes up night after night reaching for her husband only to be disappointed by an empty bed. She tears up when she hears the National Anthem or when she hears something about another soldier dying. You make think only her husband fights in this war but your dead wrong so does she. I am a military wife. I sit on the home front not on the front lines. I stand proud and strong. I may be scared and tired as hell, but I support my husband. I support every man and woman that are in the armed forces, the ones that are fighting in a war far away. I support the ones who might not make it home and the ones who will. Some people choose to call us stupid or ignorant for fighting this war and being military wives. Well without the many men and women who put their lives on the line those ignorant people wouldn't even have the right or ability to say what they say. So I say if you cant stand behind our troops, then go stand in from of them. There are men and women out there that have families and loved ones they may never see again the second they step on that plane. They don't deserve to die for such an ignorant group of people. So those of you that don't support our servicemen and women go stand in front of them. You can take their bullet. I am a Proud Military Wife. I laugh, scream, cry, and even sing too loud. I'm strong. I'm courageous at times and I'm weak others. When you see lady or man young or old, that is wearing a pair of dog tags or anything military related, take a second out of your day and tell them how much you appreciate them and the sacrifices their family makes. Their face will light up and they will say God Bless you. That lady or man will smile for the rest of the day knowing that someone recognizes them and their military family. So God Bless you all. You are never alone in anything that you go through, from deployments to getting orders to move half way across the country, or even the world. You have me and everyone else, you may have never met us but we are your military family and we know what you are going through. Written by: Shirley Benson (Stockton ME)

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Owner LunaBlue

Started Jun 5, 2007

Type Open

Members 172 Members

I've noticed there's nothing like the support, stories, care and commaderie between women who are married to men in the military. Deployments, field rotations, training, long hours, and unexpected changes are all apart of our lives. We know how to clean a uniform, the difference between "civilian time" and "military time" and an unrelenting list of abbreviations (PT's, ACU's, B CO, the list goes on forever). My husband was deployed for 14 monthes last year and my family and friends just couldn't seem to say or do the right thing for me when I was having a hard time...but Army wives I had just met could take a look at me and know where I was coming from and say just what I needed to hear. Most of the friends I've made in the military I have nothing else in common with except that we love our soldiers, sailors, airmen and Marines. So, if you're in love with a military man, join us! Share your stories, funny and sad, ask for advice and give it when you've got it.

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