So I'm new here, I have been looking for something that would let me connect to other ladies who have experienced more than me being in a military relationship. No I'm not married, I'm just a girlfriend, but I have had something bothering me soo much lately that my boyfriend mentioned to me the other day.
Well to start my boyfriend is finishing up training I do not really want to mention the base because I do not want this to cause a stir and he has met some amazing new guys down there. The thing is that he has this one friend, whom I thought was such an amazing guy when I first met him, well turns out he really is not. This guy had been with his girlfriend for seven years and they decided to get married two months ago, well come to find out he decided to cheat with a girl who is in the army and in a different company, I was absolutely devastated by this. I never in my wildest dreams could see this guy cheating on his wife. I know its really none of my business but it is just so upsetting. I know my boyfriend would never do that, he wont even talk to his friend because of this. I know his wife will probably never know but having that in the back of my mind just keeps constantly bothering me, I just feel so bad for her. Sorry its kind of a useless post but I was thinking some of you ladies could help me out with this. Thank you!
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These situations are so hard. :/
I can never decide if you should tell the girl because she deserves to know, or not because it's none of your business...
All I can say, is that if I was the girl being cheated on, I would want anyone that knew to tell me. Even if I didn't believe them at first, at least I would have a heads up and be more careful and maybe think about it a litttle. Especially if I was about to get married!! Then I would really want people to tell me before I made such a huge change in my life!!
Just wondering though, how exactly do you know he cheated?
1I would just let it go. she'll find out eventually and you clearly no longer have contact with either of them so its really not your place to go and tell her out of the blue. she won't believe you and it will cause problems for your boyfriend as well.
just stay away from him and know that everything he does will come back to him in the end.
2These things happen a lot within the armed forces, it's just best to leave it and move on. Military life is hard, some men use it as an excuse to do it, especially when they are TDY.
Things will work out how they need to, it's best to just let things go with the flow and only time will tell.
3The key is to realize that military guys get a bad rap because of things like this. Not all of us military guys do that. If you really take a good look, the number of guys in the military that cheat are close to the same number of guys that aren't in the military that cheat, percentage-wise. Granted, the ones that do tend to use the military as an excuse, which i don't condone. All I can say is that their situation will work itself out. Your relationship is going to take all of your focus, especially with him being in the military.
4It's awful, but it is a fact of life that there are people who are predisposed to cheating. I would just leave it alone. Even though you're only the messenger, there could be some resentment directed towards you by a number of people. Also, she may have her suspicions or already know but is just choosing to turn a blind eye to it. Most cheaters are found out sooner or later.
5i wouldnt know what to do in this situation either. I mean i have a friend that her husband is lying to her about something major but its not cheating and i cant decided do i tell her or not becuase i love both her and her husband and dont want to ruin a friendship. but i mean its up to you if you are close enough to this guys wife and feel the need to tell her then do do
6Its really sad to say, but being a military female i see both sides to the situation. it happens right under the wives and husbands heads. Its not right, but its more like an unwritten rule. We dont snich.... sorry
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